Saturday, July 14, 2012

Cousins Explained

Before I post the next blog you might want to understand how cousin relationships work.
Be it known:  This is 100%, unashamedly, plagiarized from Cousins Explained at

If someone walked up to you and said, "Howdy, I'm your third cousin, twice removed," would you have any idea what they meant? Most people have a good understanding of basic relationship words such as "mother," "father," "aunt," "uncle," "brother," and "sister." But what about the relationship terms that we don't use in everyday speech? Terms like "second cousin" and "first cousin, once removed"? We don't tend to speak about our relationships in such exact terms ("cousin" seems good enough when you are introducing one person to another), so most of us aren't familiar with what these words mean.

Relationship Terms

Sometimes, especially when working on your family history, it's handy to know how to describe your family relationships more exactly. The definitions below should help you out.

Cousin (a.k.a "first cousin")
Your first cousins are the people in your family who have two of the same grandparents as you. In other words, they are the children of your aunts and uncles.
Second Cousin
Your second cousins are the people in your family who have the same great-grandparents as you., but not the same grandparents.
Third, Fourth, and Fifth Cousins
Your third cousins have the same great great grandparents, fourth cousins have the same great-great-great-grandparents, and so on.
When the word "removed" is used to describe a relationship, it indicates that the two people are from different generations. You and your first cousins are in the same generation (two generations younger than your grandparents), so the word "removed" is not used to describe your relationship.
The words "once removed" mean that there is a difference of one generation. For example, your mother's first cousin is your first cousin, once removed. This is because your mother's first cousin is one generation younger than your grandparents and you are two generations younger than your grandparents. This one-generation difference equals "once removed."
Twice removed means that there is a two-generation difference. You are two generations younger than a first cousin of your grandmother, so you and your grandmother's first cousin are first cousins, twice removed.


Lois said...

Thanks for the explanation Shelley. I have a first cousin who is married to her (and my) second cousin. Their grandparents are sister and brother. Do you have any idea how I would refer to her children and her children's children in relation to me (yes we are all from the south)?

Shelley and Monte said...

Your 1st cousin's children are your 1st once removed and her grandchildren are your 1st 2x removed. Your 1st cousin's children are your children's second cousins.

And just for future reference, from what I have read, 3 cousins and beyond are considered "kissing cousins" and are "safe". ;)

Lois said...

Good to know. Thanks!

Maureen said...

Wow, what a great post. Very educational and I thank you for sharing.